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5 Things That Start Happening When You Learn to Like Yourself and Have Boundaries

Liking yourself and setting boundaries is self-care – and it can change your life. It turns your image of yourself on its head. You gain an understanding of what you like and dislike, and you no longer let others determine your self-worth or well-being. You also no longer believe you have to compromise to be with people or fulfill their image of you. You will have the right relationships, your self-esteem grows, and you will be even more successful at work. This article describes the five critical things that will occur as soon as you start liking yourself and creating boundaries.

No Longer Feel Like a Fraud but Know Who You Are

One of the most freeing results of self-acceptance and setting boundaries is just not faking it anymore. Imposter syndrome:  the demon inside you wanting to rip your face off with teeth, because surely we all know that what YOU have done is just not possible. It typically comes from self-doubt, an absence of confidence or the imperative to match up with standards fixed by society/family/ourselves too high.

The more you like yourself, the better a doorway opens up to self-awareness and compassion. This releases the facade of having to be something you are not. Being true to yourself, warts and all is when you stop feeling like an imposter. You find yourself; the strengths and weaknesses of you, what it is that moves you. This makes you confident because now, you know who are and so there is no competition can existent then how should we expect for being judged.

Now with this amazing clarity you start to let his actions dictate yours for achieving the real authenticity that makes decisions. I do not mean to imply life will be free from tests, either in your occupations nor along with friends and family but now you are no more required by the must function as or even act a specific way within romantic-like relationships however they reside on your purposes. This honesty releases you from embarrassmentbecause of a false impression.

One-on-one therapy can help the individual truly come to know and own their truth, thereby overcoming feelings of inadequacy.

You Know What You Want and Are Okay if Others Get Upset

When you set boundaries, it is the beginning of putting your own needs and desires first without feeling bad about letting others down. A very strong change that occurs when you start to like yourself is getting a great deal of presence and stop feeling guilty if things just appear out of nowhere. This does not mean that you do not care about other people, but rather it means to no longer jeopardize your happiness for the sake of others.

With security in yourself comes the realisation that you cannot please everyone. You might even anger a few people while setting your limits or by picking the path you want and not what others thought. But self-love comes with the understanding that their discomfort is not your problem.

You realize that your needs matter just as much, and you quit apologizing for them. You feel stronger, with the ability to say “no” where you must and move always towards a dream that others might mock.

Therapy can also help people communicate more effectively about what they want and need, making it easier for clients to create boundaries that allow them respond gracefully without feeling guilty.

Start Attracting Healthy and Kinds Friends Who Care About You and Don’t Just Need Something From You

Once you start to enjoy yourself and become more assertive, your relationships will automatically shift. The people that once leveraged your pleaser personality type may drift away, while opening space for more sound and balanced friendships to fill the vacated hole. Imagine, instead of being swamped with energy vampires or those happy to be on the recieving end but never willing ti reciprocate in kind you started attracting mates that truly did have your back.

Boundaries serve as a filter. When you speak or clarify your boundaries, the ones that remain are meant to be in your life — those who value and respect YOU for exactly WHO you ARE… not just what they can get from/ receive from/consume. This is to say that you are part of a healthy reciprocative friendship—a kind where each person supports, respects, and cares for the other. You will start to feel your interactions with others come more easily, be joy-filled and you no longer begin them out of a sense obligation. These relationships feed your soul, rather than take from it.

Being able to say no to the people that you allow into your life come with valuing yourself. Therapy will help, but beyond that there are opportunities for individuals to develop friendships based on respect and care.

Find a Healthy Romantic Partner

Concurrently, you begin dating more confidence and owning mansions on stilts for healthy relationships. People who have struggled with self-esteem and setting boundaries end up in an unhealthy or co-dependent relationship often. It occurs because they are attempting to receive validation externally or do not feel that they deserve a balanced, equal partnership. Remaining in toxic, controlling or emotionally neglectful relationships because they think this is the best that they can get.

But when you have a high level of self- esteem, you tend not to accept someone who treats her less than she values herself. You no longer stand for poor treatment or disrespect, and you have the option to walk away from people who are not goodfor your soul. You will start meeting worthy suitors who cherish your personal space and where the attraction is from both sides. Truly valuing yourself brings you right to the core of what healthy relationships are all about: mutual respect, communication and trust.

But instead of looking for someone to “fulfil” you, you want a partner who would ‘complete’ yes. You will also be less dependent, because you are already secure in yourself and do not have to rely on another for constant reassurance. As we work our way through therapy we can break the cycle of toxic and manipulative behaviour in relationships, while also learning to recconise what a healthy relationship looks like.

Increase Your Earning Power

And lastly, when you learn to love yourself and have strict boundaries in place- many times  the amount of money that fills your pockets will increase as well. Being self-assured and assertive are key factors for occupational success. When you fail to see your own value, it will manifest in how much you charge for jobs, what salary puts food on the table when considering switching companies or job roles and if they are all good enough.

Second, the more you like yourself: The second flip is when we get out of our head and start seeing that how wonderful it feels to appreciate us as part of our brand value which makes advocating for who we are so much easier! When it comes to requesting a raise, negotiating for your dream job or starting that business confidence becomes the tool in order to act on opportunities which you truly deserve. You no longer sell yourself short or settle for positions you can not succeed in, leave of achieve financial independence.

Therapy can help unravel harmful scripts that people have written about themselves and replace these with the nurturing environment necessary for professional growth.

Self-Liking and BOUNDARIES work is a journey of massive transformation in 1000 areas of your life. The benefits are vast, from avoiding the feeling of being a fraud to cultivating better relationships and career prospects. Individual therapy can help guide and support you moving through low self-esteem or poor boundaries to new patterns of healthy relationship. In therapy, you can learn how to create the boundaries that are keeping space for your emotional health and allowing a new life out of those ashes.